March 22nd, 2009 at 12:56pm
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What do you believe when you are approaching a new girl?
Think about the thoughts that are going through your head.
I was talking with the students after our last workshop asking them what thoughts were going through their heads as they approached different women.
Thoughts such as Will she like this approach, Will she approve of me, Is she worthy of me, Am I doing everything right, were going through a lot of their heads. This got me thinking as we sat together in a coffee cafe outside in beautiful Zagreb, Croatia. I asked them what these thoughts consisted of? Where they were coming from?
What types of thoughts do you have when you approach somebody new?
Think about this. You see somebody who is really attractive. Your heart is beating in your chest a lot. Your pulse quickens and the tension is just in the air because you are just so attracted to this person.
You approach them due to this attraction.
What happens?
What is going through your mind?
What is your intention?
If you want to impress them
If you hope they approve of you.
If you want them to like you.
You are in a taking state. You are needy.
Instead of being in a taking state why not go to a giving state?
They gave you the gift of being able to admire their beauty.
Give them the gift of making her day.
If you go into a giving state and give her the gift of making her feel better.
You are no longer needy. This is because you enter a giving state instead of a taking state.
Make sure this is a genuine gift of making her day without expecting anything in return. If you have an expectation of getting something back than you are not giving a gift. You are trying to get a trade. Trading a compliment for her liking you.
Give just to give with no expectations and you will get back 10 fold back in return.
Make the world a better place and make her day when you see somebody you really like.
Be direct.
Robert Torrey is one of the instructors for Attract and Date Corp. Subscribe to their free newsletter and learn what Attract and Date can do for your dating confidence by going here http://www.attractanddate.com
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March 22nd, 2009 at 12:56pm
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The worst case scenario that can happen when you want to date a woman is when she says you know, you’re a really nice guy … but let’s rather be friends ok?. Doesn’t that suck? Of course it does, but for many guys out there they just don’t know how to overcome this problem. But I do so listen up…
When you act like a clingy, needy nice-guy around women then you are not getting anywhere.
She will not see you as a potential boyfriend or lover but as a friend. Why? Because you did not stimulate her emotional trigger buttons … the ones that make her feel that gut level emotion called sexual attraction towards you.
Here’s what happens when you behave like a wimp or nicey-nice guy around women: they tell you that you are indeed a nice person, but they would rather be friends with you because you are so nice and cute. I know, it doesn’t really make any sense at all if you are new to this, but here’s what’s REALLY going on inside her head:
They really don’t want to be friends…they just want to get rid of you!
Now look, women say and mean very different things. Lets be friends or I don’t want to lose you as a friend just means, You know, I can’t really see a relationship working out or in many cases I’m just not attracted to you sexually.
So how do you make a woman attracted to you? How do you make a woman see you as a hot stud and as boyfriend material instead of just another girlfriend?
Allright…first of all, when you want to get a woman’s phone number or take things to another level on a date…just stop acting like one of her friends would.
Seriously, if you don’t want to become her friend then STOP acting like one in the first place!
All of her friends are nice to her, pay her lots of compliments, treat her like a princess and buy her drinks when she is out. If you do exactly the same, then she will put you in the FRIENDS category like all the other guys.
Don’t become her personal slave that does everything for her and offers to help her out all the time. Don’t spend hours listening to all her problems. You want to be the one she talks for hours to all her girlfriends about because she isn’t sure how she can attract you.
But if you act like a friend, then you will become her friend.
This is what I want you to do now: you need to do the exact opposite of what her friends do. Stop being nice, stop paying wussy compliments to her and don’t be so needy! You got to make her guess and keep her on her toes whether you like her or not.
Keep her guessing about you so she gets curious. If you pay her a lot of compliments about how good she looks today early on, then all of that mystery is gone because she already knows that you are into her.
And that doesn’t create any attraction.
You need to push her emotional trigger buttons to create attraction, and you do that by teasing her and busting her balls. You need to show her that you are a man and not a doormat.
So instead of doing something for her (I dunno, like a lift for instance) like every friend would, just be cheeky and say ok … what do I get in return? Naw, not THAT girlie, you gotta stop thinking about sex all the time…but an ice-cream is a start.
There you go!
THAT’S how you press her buttons and get her attracted to you. Not by being nice, needy and clingy. If you want to be her lover or boyfriend … then get her sexually attracted to you by teasing or accusing her she just thinks of you are a sex-object.
Use your imagination when teasing her, it works wonders when it comes to women and dating.
Keep it up!
Nick Shane is a street-smart Dating-Expert and author of the book Playboyskool and several other products that help regular guys like YOU become more successful with women and dating. Get his FREE online Dating Tips newsletter at http://www.Playboyskool.com.
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March 22nd, 2009 at 12:56pm
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Have you ever wondered why a woman never texts or calls you after you have been out on a date together?
I bet you start to think she hasn’t had a good time, she doesn’t like you, you are not good enough for her or she finds your company boring or not exciting enough.
Probably all of that.
I could start to tell you that one bad date won’t affect the way she feels about you or how attracted she is to you, but I’d be lying. Especially if this is the first date you have with your new woman, it could all be over before it even really started.
A woman will make up her mind about you in a flash. Not intentionally, but sub-consciously! And not only women do that, men do it as well.
I mean, you made your mind up about her instantly. You decided that within just a few minutes or even seconds of seeing or talking to her that you felt sexually attracted to her.
So unless you made a good impression to start with she wont be interested in you.
Now what about the moments leading up to the date? Did you decide where to go or did you ASK HER?
Let me guess, you acted like the perfect gentleman and told her that she could decide … just to be polite, nice and respectful?
Oh dude, you have so much to learn about women, she was probably dreading the date from that moment on. She was attracted to you in the beginning, that’s why she agreed to go on a date with you … but you just KILLED all the attraction within a second.
When you ASK a woman something like this, she will get annoyed at you. Why? Because you are not different from all the other guys she has dated in the past.
So after that false start, where did you go?
Dinner?
Movies?
Great, you are well on the way to becoming your towns most unattractive, unoriginal and most boring date. Listen, every guy takes a woman out to a nice restaurant or to the cinema. Did she sleep and eventually go out with all those guys? I wouldn’t bet on it, so what makes you think you will have a chance if you do EXACTLY the same?
Think man, think: you have to be DIFFERENT!
Look, I will even admit that when you have been going out for maybe 3 months or so, taking your partner out to dinner isn’t a bad idea, but for crying out lout don’t do it on the first couple of dates.
Going to the cinema is pretty similar. Again, you hit a big cliche and what are you going to do? You can’t talk through the movie and don’t even think about pulling that lame arm over the shoulder trick. This isn’t Hollywood, this is the 21st century … and yes it is just lame. (If you want to wrap your arm around her effectively, just do it by saying c’mere…)
Oh, and another thing: Did you ask to kiss her?
If you did, then I should bitchslap your butt right where it came from. NEVER ask, just do it. Women don’t like it if you put the big decisions into their hands. You are the man, and YOU have to lead and take charge of situations so the woman can follow.
So next time, take her window shopping where you can tease her all day long or go roller blading in the park. If you still don’t know how to effectively kiss a woman, just stop talking, move your hand towards her neck and if she smiles and gets those shiny eyes…you can lean in and kiss her gently.
But if you delivered just another stereotypical date like every other guy, you will share the same destiny like all the other men she has dated: You’re a very nice guy and I had a great time, but let’s just be friends
To sum this up real quick: Why do women never call you after a date? Why should they … you were just like every other guy she has dated in the past: nothing else but boring. Why would any woman want to see you again?
Think about it!
Nick Shane is a street-smart Dating-Expert and author of the book Playboyskool and several other products that help regular guys like YOU become more successful with women and dating. Get his FREE online Dating Tips newsletter at http://www.Playboyskool.com.
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March 22nd, 2009 at 12:56pm
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Has this ever happened to you? You walk into a club, a restaurant, or heck, even the library and notice the most gorgeous guy on the planet staring directly into your eyes. You feel your legs go weak but you dont let it show. No way, youre a woman of the new millennium. Besides, he doesnt need to know that immediately youve visualized your life together for the next ten years. All in the time it takes you to blink twice, youve planned your entire wedding and how many kids youll have. Youve dreamed about this moment. Meeting someone, eyes locked across a crowded room. Slowly, you move toward one another, breathless, as though youre the only two people left on the planet. But wait. Reality check, honey. Youre still rooted to the ground and Romeo over there hasnt moved from his seat.
The search for Romeo has existed since the beginning of time. Women inherently want romance. We want to be ravished with devotion and love. Not the needy kind, but the pure kind. We want to be worshipped. And with good cause. We deserve it. We are strong. We are educated. We are lovely, and by george, we smell good! The problem is, men today just dont get it. We live in society that is so fast-paced that even drive throughs annoy us if they arent fast enough. You can drop off your dry-cleaning without leaving your car and anything youd ever want to know is just a one -second click away on the Internet. The days of thinking about what you want to say to someone before you phone them, of making sure your handwriting looks just right before you spray a letter with perfume and pop it into the mail are over. Nowadays, e-mails fly over the frequency waves at an astounding rate and chivalry is all but dead. Try getting a guy to open a door for you when hes in a hurry. Not a chance, unless youre 5 ft. 10 with legs that go up to your throat. Seen a guy give up his seat on a bus recently or even in a restaurant waiting area for a woman? No again. Grandmas and pregnant ladies everywhere are standing much more these days while men go about their business, oblivious to the effect it causes on the female psyche.
So whats the solution? Its actually relatively simple. Demand more. Men can become lazy simply because no one tells them not to. Not all guys are lazy. Some still attempt to open car doors on dates (at least the first ones). But when was the last time you witnessed chivalry? When was the last time a guy stood up at a table until after you sat down? Its time to stand up, ladies. Stand up for your inner goddess! We have the right to be romanced, to be wooed if we choose. We have the right to demand that chivalry no longer takes a back seat to the NBA Playoffs!
Even if youre a truly modern woman. Even if you hate the notion that a man should pay for dates. Even if youd never think of writing a love letter yourself, you still deserve to be treated like a lady. And for each of us, that means different things. My advice? Think about what you really want from your Romeo. No, your childhood dreams are likely not rational, but somewhere inside of you, that little girl who dreamed of her Prince Charming knew what she wanted. Once you make your needs known, who knows, perhaps youll find your Romeo after all.
Catherine Ipcizade is a freelance writer living in Irvine, California. She has published more than 350 articles on topics including relationships, marriage, food, and parenting. Catherine also writes for children.
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March 22nd, 2009 at 12:56pm
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You didnt mean to fight with her. You didnt even know you upset her until a day later when she sent a courier to your apartment with a box full of your stuff. So what can you do to make things right again?
Men and women may not be from different planets, but lets face it, their communication is. Men tend to speak from their heads. They see a problem, and they want to fix it. Thats where the handyman comes in. Tell a guy youve had a bad day and hell tell you how to turn it around. Tell him your meeting with the big boss is coming and youre stressed out and hell want to go over interview skills with you. Guys are inherently problem solvers. That works great until women get involved.
The female mind is a mystery unto itself. Only women can think of 50 things at the same time while juggling several tasks together. And although women too enjoy problem solving, when a crisis is at hand, they lead with their hearts. When a woman has a bad day, she wants to be listened to. When she tells her guy about that big meeting with the boss, she just wants him to sympathize. She doesnt need the pointers. If she does, shell ask for them outright. What she needs to know is that her man cares.
If your girl comes to you with a concern in your relationship, the best thing you can do is to give her your full attention. Resist the urge to jump in with rationales and solutions. Instead, try taking her hand, looking directly into her eyes, and actively listening. Chances are, shell appreciate the effort and youll both be able to enjoy your day together.
It can be hard to deal with your girls emotions, especially if shes the sensitive type. A little patience can go a long way in this department. Validate her feelings and you wont get stuck talking till 3a.m.
When youre already in the doghouse, heres a foolproof way to fix it fast Be sincere. Thats it. Flowers are nice, sure, but they dont say what she needs to hear. She needs to know that you care, that you want to listen to her, that her needs matter to you. Give her that and youll be back in her arms in no time.
Catherine Ipcizade is a freelance writer living in California. She has published more than 350 articles on topics including relationships, marriage, parenting, and food. Catherine also writes for children.
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March 22nd, 2009 at 12:56pm
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More importantly, will an online service provide you with what you are looking for? You want a lasting relationship. You want someone who is willing to take part in your life to live life with you. It is very difficult to find just the right person when you have a busy life. And, it is hard to find the right person when you have so many not so worthy people to choose from. What does this get you? It gets you worried about your future wondering if there really is someone out there. But, with the help on an online service, you can find that right person.
The online service is not just for the people out there that are boring, dull or too shy to date. It is not for all the ugly, nerdy lacking people in the country, but for those who simply are too busy, too tired of the people in their area, or simply those who are not meeting enough people. They are for anyone at any point in their lives. They provide you with a great service. Often times they are screening people, so that you can easily find individuals that fit your specific needs desires. They help to determine the type of personality you have all of the others out there so that they can find those that are great choices for you.
Online Dating: Bringing People Together
Online brings a multitude of people around the country around the world together. If you are looking for just the right someone, he or she may not be in your state or even your country. They may be someplace far from here. Or, they may be so busy that they don’t know that you are out there looking for them. Online brings these people together.
They do this in a number of ways. As a member, you will likely receive a screening. Some online websites call these personality tests. The tests will determine your personality traits. These are the things that make you, you. And, these are also the things that help you to get along with others or, to not get along with them. By providing these tests, the online service can bring together people that are really similar or that have compatible personalities. This helps to weed out those people who simply will not work with you.
Online Dating Fosters Lifelong Commitments
It is true that online is a great place to go when you are looking for relationships. Because people are looking for others to get along with to one day marry, online forums help to establish just that. They provide you with people that match your personality type. And, they then allow you to find people that interest you. You can email, chat, talk eventually date someone around the world or simply across the city that you may never have met before.
Because they do go to all the trouble of help you to find just the right ones for you, online is a great place to meet your future spouse or lifelong companion. Just think. These people are all looking for the same things that you a